MINDSET MATTERS…

Catholic Women Blog

There is wonderful analogy about honeybee and fly. It teaches us a valuable lesson to improve our relationships and quality of life. 

The honeybee flies from flower to flower extracting only the nectar without disturbing the flower. The mindset of honeybee is to seek the essence of each flower. Even in the place filled with rotten garbage, rather than giving its attention to all the filth, the honeybee keeps its focus on finding nectar and it eagerly flies to even a single tiny flower amidst miles of garbage. 

The fly represents another type of mind set in a relationship. Although each species can be appreciated for its particular instinctive nature, still, we can study them to learn relevant lessons to improve the quality of our own lives. 

On an otherwise healthy body the fly will focus on sucking an infectious scab. The fly may travel over hundreds of flowers, but what does it focus on? It focuses on tasting garbage and excrement. It ignores the sweet fragrance of rose gardens and even in the best of circumstances, and in the tidiest places, the fly will focus on the trash.  This represents the mindset of ignoring the good qualities in those around us and focusing on their faults. 

It is so easy; it requires no efforts to see the flaws in others. Fault finding is a habit., the more we give into it, the more we become obsessed by it.  In relationships it is important to have honest, well-wishing communication, focused on appreciating the positive while dealing with the negatives in a gracious, constructive manner. Trying to bring out the best in each other. In doing so we learn to recognize the positive qualities within our own self and to overcome unhealthy low self-esteem. 

Honeybee mentality or fly mentality, the choice is ours.

R N S